If you’ve been reading my previous blog posts you’ve probably noticed a lot of references to a strong commitment. I find that a lot of the people around me, including myself, have trouble making a ‘real’ commitment. Committing yourself to something isn’t as easy as it sounds; in fact if you think it’s easy, then this article is for you because commitment isn’t easy in any sense of the term.
One could ask, why directly commit myself to ‘x’, where ‘x’ is classes, sports, or a friend /significant other. Sometimes it seems all too easy to passively scrape by in things that we don’t want to focus our efforts towards. Something that has been told to me is that the most valuable things in life are those that are worth working for, and likewise things that aren’t worth working for aren’t particularly valuable. If that ‘x’ is truly as important to you as you believe it is, then it’s worth committing yourself to. But just how do we do that? What is a commitment, word, or an action?
Real commitment means doing your absolute best at something, which is very easy when times are good. But true commitment is the ability to scratch and claw for whatever it is, when times couldn’t get harder. Commitment sees you through those times that seem utterly impossible to navigate. Commitment is an action, an active use of your abilities to see that whatever ‘x’ was is receiving your full ability. Passive commitment is unrealistic; in this sense passive and committed are exact antonyms. They cannot coexist because for someone to commit themselves, they must actively scratch and claw to get to whatever it is that is being committed to.
If it’s classes, this means not skipping “that one class that probably won’t matter”, it means controlling your anger when you’re at your wit’s end with whoever it is that’s worth committing yourself to, it means forcing yourself to do that last set of squat, even though there’s no one around to notice. Commitment comes from within yourself and it takes real discipline to make sure you stick to those commitments. But if you do, the rewards will greatly outweigh the costs.